DNA-testing for fathers. A powerful technology allowing men to make sure that the children they take care of are biologically theirs.
Over 2000 tests were carried over in Sweden, 2 142 tests in 2006, 2 011 in 2005.
The results show that 25% of the men are not the fathers...
Now that is alarming, because it shows a trend in society, and the trend is not good. Considering that this is only the tip of an iceberg, the overall picture does not present the women as angels. Rather, it points to the infidelity and lack of responsibility in their lives, creating much greater problems than any person can think of.
Let us imagine a father who suddenly finds out that the child he has been caring for, loving and providing for, is not his flesh and blood. This in itself being a shock, is only the beginning of a chain of events that would disintegrate his whole world, and the world of this child, as well.
Very often, especially when the child is a baby, the couple split, and the child grows up without a father, often impoverished, because his single mother must now provide for them by herself. But it also happens that a man leaves his family when the child is older, because he is not able to stay with the child's mother after having learned about her infidelity and deceit. Imagine the pain this causes for the innocent child. I cannot even begin to imagine that!
But there are cases when the man stays, accepts the child and gets over the pain and deceit, for the sake of his children and his wife.
None of these solutions is easy. And all of them might be avoided if only people followed the Law of God, telling them to stay faithful and loving their spouse.
Sin has the enormous power of multiplying itself and damaging everything in its proximity. This is a very good illustration of the phenomenon.
But, my question is: what would you faced with such a predicament? Would you leave? Would you stay?
6 comments:
So much depends on the unfaithful spouse. If they were repentant and wanting to reconcile then I'd (hopefully!) do my best to overcome and forgive. Forgiveness usually comes easily to me, thankfully, not that I've ever had to forgive something of this magnitude. But if God's grace can cover our sinful past, how can we not forgive? Especially, as you pointed out, when a child's whole world is on the line?
It is a good illustration of the devastation sin wreaks on families.
I would stay, without a doubt. I take responsibility for everything that happens in my house. The child would still be a blessing from God.
Here's the problem: the biological father REALLY should assist in providing financial support for his choice. Yet, if one wishes to get past the whole experience, it might be better off to just let it go and not have them involved at all. (Is there some legal obligation about informing the biological father? Such a mess!)
Either way, the child had no choice in the matter, of course, so should the biological father be unwilling or unable to assist, the exceptionally good thing to do would be to raise the child as one's own. Might be difficult for many, however, understandably.
- Tom
Very interesting input, Tom. I did not mention the biolgical father, and thank You for putting him into this equasion.
Here in the states, at least California, the husband bears all financial responsibility, regardless of who actually sires the child. But the judges are a bunch of loons out here, so that may change.
In most cases the law is protecting the mother, just or unjust, it is so.
I have read horrendous stories about the judicial system of the USA, but I do not want to evaluate something that is not close to my life.
I hope things will be corrected soon, though.
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